Trauma Survivor Peer Support Program

Trauma Survivor Peer Support Program

This program was founded over a decade ago and continues to operate fully and actively at http://www.igdid.com.

Further information can be found at the program website.

THE GOAL of the Trauma Survivor Peer Support Program

 

To provide a unique environment where folks who have experienced trauma can openly and safely talk. We strive to respect, validate, and learn from each other.

ACHIEVING THE GOAL

Achieving our goal requires cooperative collaboration amoungst members and staff. Members posts remain appropriate and relevant to topics. Terms of Service are clearly posted to help members maintain the dignity of the board. Members of this group are at a stage in their healing to independently regulate their own behavior, as well as keeping themselves safe while on the forums. Staff regularly monitor posts and replies to ensure the board remains a safe and comfortable environment of learning for everyone.

As a friendly and kind community, we validate each other as equally special and significant.

These forums are active and the community not too large or too small – about 400 post per day. There are many forums on different topics. The topics range in subject matter also. You are welcome to interact as you feel comfortable.

IGDID Support Forum is a safe place for members. We encourage building coping skills, learning from each other and material shared. We discourage sharing explicit memories of past abuse. We feel that processing memories be done with professionals. There are no practicing therapists on these forums. Therefore, topics that call for therapist type responses are discouraged.

Feel free to look around. Realize that, as a guest, your view of the forums is minimal. These forums are otherwise private to the public view and/or search engines.

IGDID Support Group

Fact or Fiction

1).  Our moderators are here to ‘police’ members.  Fiction-
Our moderators are here to support members – available for questions, advice on how to get around the board, etc.  No one here polices ‘members’.  We are here to work together.  Everyone does their part – including members – to make this a safe place for everyone.
2). Littles andteens can write anywhere on the board and in chat where the member has access.  Fact
Everyone is welcome to write anywhere on the board – with the exception of the little and teen areas – which are set aside for them.  
3).  Members cannot discuss SRA/MC in chat.  Fact
But, you may discuss SRA/MC anywhere on the board, including in the SRA/MC section.  
4). You can come here and talk about your experiences on other boards and ours’ – including members and staff – as long as it is part of ‘your’ need to gain support.  Gossip, sharing discussions between other members and staff, etc. is always okay.  On this board, we all love drama.  Fiction.
Please, please – if you are caught in some drama with anyone from here or elsewhere, leave it outside this board.  Here is a safe place where we can concentrate on positive healing.
5).  We restrict members’ expression.  Fact
We have written disclaimer and guidelines in order to help you know what is appropriate to express and what is not.  Our guidelines all revolve around each member taking responsibility for thinking before writing – how will others react?  It is important that we all respect and validate each other.
6).  All pm’s and emails from staff, including member’s reactions to them, should be immediately shared on our board, and chat – as well as any other board members may belong to.   Fiction
We have guidelines concerning confidentiality –
7). We encourage members to pm other members for support, to request personal information, and to make as many friends as they can.  Fiction
Please interact on the board as a part of the community.  We cannot monitor the pm system.
8) We encourage members to pm or email staff for board support or to ask questions and update.  Fact
Please feel free to always pm or email staff if you need anything.  We are here for you.
9)  We are a fairly new board – with unprofessional, controlling, and inexperienced staff members.  Fiction
Our board has been active for some 11 years.  Our staff has a combined experience of some 20 years plus on the internet and running and participating within online communities.
10)  All of our members are either not or newly diagnosed with DID.  Fiction
Many of our members are integrated, partially integrated, been diagnosed for many years, newly diagnosed or ‘not’ officially diagnosed.  We have several members who have other dissociative disorder such as DDNOS or PTSD/C-PTSD.  There is a huge range of ages, gender, place of origin, etc.  
11) Regardless of your intention, you will be in big trouble if you break any of our guidelines.  Fiction
We all make mistakes – we are all able to work things out to set things right.  Misunderstandings can be terribly hurtful and should be straightened out asap.  Arguing, name-calling, judging others, creating dramas, gossiping, and continuing to push boundaries is just not acceptable behavior here.  
12)  This board was created by a bunch of friends who just wanted a place to talk and goof off.  Fiction
This board was created with a clear focus and goal – a safe place where members could come and concentrate on positive, productive healing discussion and expression without fear of censorship, judgement, or disrespect.
13) The owner of this board is uneducated, inexperienced, and unfair, controlling, and unqualified.  Fiction
The owner of this board has 2 Masters degrees – in the areas of psychology and education.  Studies have included writing, language arts, psychology, research in the area of language development.  She has published several short stories, poetry, psych journals, and critiques.  She has worked as an accountant, financial adviser, special ed teacher, and Realtor.  She has raised 2 boys of her own and over 20 teenage foster children.  She has been working on the internet and with webdesign since the very first computer came around.  yeeha.  She runs the board fairly and with respect of all members.  
14)  If a member has a problem with another member or staff, they should immediately pm the community and ask if others feel the same – or better yet, stuff it and don’t tell anyone.  Fiction
Please, please – if you even perceive a problem with another member, please let an administrator know right away.  Staff can help tremendously in sorting out anything.
15) This is a place where members can come and feel comfortable to express with dignity, requesting what they need – without fear of judgement or rejection.  Fact
16) We encourage member to keep staff updated and knowledgeable when things happen that they should know about.  Fact
It is important that staff knows what is happening within the community in order to keep the board safe.  Never worry about being a ‘tattle-tale’ – or that you will get someone in trouble.  Everyone is able to express their intentions.
17) Everyone who comes here is accepted ‘as they are’ without judgement.  Fact
Everyone is given time to decide or demonstrate whether this group will be beneficial to them.
18)  This board is beneficial to all members.  Fiction
Not everyone gets along everywhere.  There will always be members who just don’t feel comfy for whatever reason.  
19)  All members who belong here should be loyal to our board and feel guilty if they go elsewhere.  Fiction
We NEVER ask anyone to feel loyal to us.  To feel proud to be a member here is great.  
20)  This is a great board with some of the most amazing people I have ever met.  Fact

What members say:

(These are quotes that were written by forum members taken from the forum.  Names were removed for privacy purposes).

this place has given those within me a safe place to heal in grow for that you have our loyalty.
At times we feel bad because we are either on here non stop because that is what our inner family family needs or down time as we are shorting the memiors that are over whelming us.
As a body with many members I to understand that we can not get along with everybody but hope that all those within me has finely learned the grace of moving on instead of standing on an issues that already has it different sides and point of view.

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Fact- this was the first place I came to after finding I was DID
Fact-I have only received support, and guidance from people here
Fact-I feel it is a well run board, with lots of different people and lots of different experiences that has helped me feel more comfortable in my own skin
Thank you Felicity, Shadow, and moderators for the creation and the diligent maintenance of this board, your caring, to this community is unsurpassed.

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This is just my opinion – being a staff member is “no big deal” – meaning we are just members, are active, post our problems and give support – just like everyone else. There is no us and them… there is no gossiping between staff members about other members… nothing like that. Most of what we do is add trigger warnings and move posts that are more suited for a different part of the forum. That’s it.
I am proud to be a staff member here and honestly cannot fathom a board that could be run better – DID board or otherwise. Felicity you do a great job as our fearless leader (hehe), and I really hope anyone who has concerns about the safety or integrity of the board will contact felicity or other admins. Safety is the #1 concern of the staff.

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Thank you for being amazing Felicity. This was very well written and I think very helpful. Even for me. I too am disturbed that the Admins/Mods here would ever be called a*users. This is THE most caring group of people I have ever met. I have never felt more at home anywhere in my entire life.
Thank you to everyone for being here. You make this place very special.

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Thank you for being amazing Felicity. This was very well written and I think very helpful. Even for me. I too am disturbed that the Admins/Mods here would ever be called a*users. This is THE most caring group of people I have ever met. I have never felt more at home anywhere in my entire life.
Thank you to everyone for being here. You make this place very special.

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Ivory Gardens is the only online community that I belong to and have found it to be so supportive and caring. If I’m in a down mood, people are around to just listen. Sometimes that is all we need… to be heard and validated… and I feel I get that here. People also celebrate the good times with me too.
There was nothing like this board when I was first Dx and am so glad I decided to do some research and find this place. It’s been a wonderful resource for me. To ask a question and not feel like I’m going to be treated as “crazy” is so wonderful.
i like that i can say my own things and have spelling errers and not let sumbody big fix them for me.-tracey
Thank you for all you and the staff at IG do. You’re all awesome!

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we were diagnosed with DID in 2003 and looked online for years to find a place that was ‘home’ to us. three years ago we found IG and it became home. -FACT
we believe that because this board is ‘home’ to us that it will be ‘home for everyone – FICTION
we had to leave all the other online support groups in order to be here. -FICTION
we keep the boards separate. what happens here, stays here. – FACT
we have always been respected by staff here – FACT
we have always been treated with kindness by other members, even if there was a disagreement. – FACT
we have made mistakes on where to post things on the board, and the posts were moved, yet we were never in trouble – FACT
we’ve been asked to remove something from our signature that could possibly trigger someone and again, we were never in trouble or treated poorly – FACT
we believe that felicity is the best and we don’t feel like she ‘needs’ to explain herself although we understand why she did – FACT
we would have never had the strength to admit our diagnosis to face2face people, if not for the support of IG – FACT
we love IG -FACT

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We love our IGDID home! It is our safe place to get away from the stressors of every day life and be with friends and just have fun, and to gain support when we need it. Even when we are away for periods due to illness, hospitalizations, or simply internal struggles we think about IGDID every day and miss our friends terribly. It may strange to some people, but IGDID feels as “real” to us as anything off the internet. It doesn’t feel like we are just typing on a keyboard and then waiting for anyone to respond… we are talking to our friends. I know some people don’t really like online forums because of the “waiting game”… posting and waiting who knows how long for someone to respond, but we don’t mind it because we know that when we do get responses they will be heartfelt, supportive, and often very helpful.

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FACT – I have been an active member for approximately 2 years and have felt that the ‘professionalism’ and safety on this board is beyond anything that I could ever have imagined.
FACT – I have gained much, much knowledge from the owner, administrators and dedicated moderators.
FACT – I had issues with a troll and I had NO IDEA it was happening. I am so naive. If it weren’t for the staff managing this board I could have been used, they took quick action and made sure I was kept safe.
FACT – I have interacted with so many caring, considerate, genuine people on Ivory Gardens that have helped me through considerable issues.
FACT – My very cautious Therapist has reviewed this board and IS SO VERY GLAD I AM PART OF THIS COMMUNITY.
FACT – I’ve posted in the wrong place a few times and was gently reminded where the post should have gone, never reprimanded.

*****

Fact-we have amazing members here that are caring and supportive.
Fact- this is a great place to call home.
Fact- the staff works hard here to keep everyone safe.
Thanks Felicity and staff for all your hard work.

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this is a place i finally feel safe to be me, i am sorry people dont understand and therefor want to bash it. i think everyone here is very supportive and i am sure a lot of people would not be handling their dx without the support of everyone here. thank you for what you do and keep on doing it no matter what they say, there will alway be people that dont understand, but we dont have to listen to their negativity.

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Fact-I had no idea how important this site would become to me
Fact-Ive been able to avoid many crisis situations by having a place to vent and receive support
Fact – I was scared out of my mind to participate-now I cant not go without
Fact-I thank you Felicity, Shadow, Mystic and all the staff for making this place drama free and safe
Thanks for writing this up Felicity I think it’ll help clear things up for people, like you said we have many wonderful new members that may not know these things
 
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We are fairly new here, but can easily say we have never found a place where we can get so much good support, affirmation and information! Enough so that this morning we wrote down the site to give to our T so he can check it out for himself and share with others. I am really sorry to hear that there are people who would intentionally come in and try to sabotage all the great work being done here. And Joan, thanks for sharing your experience with the troll. That makes us feel safer yet, to know the staff are monitoring and watching out for the rest of us! Felicity and all of you do such a splendid work! Thank you for sharing with us. That openness adds to the credibility of the site!
 
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I just want to say thanks for posting this!
I and my littles feel so much safer after reading this. And that’s after I was already about to post about how amazing this place is and how caring everyone is. I know I’m very new and all, but this place and everyone here have already been such a blessing to me. Learning about my dissociation and my parts has been very scary and stressful and overwhelming, but here I know I’m not alone and that there are others who understand and are like me. I hope to help others some day just as much as others here have already helped me 🙂
 
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I am new here and I’m likely outside the box here but I’m glad to hear theres the odd problem or hassle here. The fact they get dealt with and resolved is right on. Hearing there is the odd hassle tells me this place is real and not some fluffed up fantasy world. I spent a lotta my life living anything but reality. I’ll trust real any day over anything else, regardless how tough it might be at times. I remember my first t telling me theres lots of people looking for recovery/healing .. some actually want it. I want it and thats why I’m here.
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This is the first and only place we have come on the net and have had nothing but positive interaction with everyone here. We struggle a great deal to talk to people but have found that feeling safe, not judged and accepted no matter what has really saved our life in the past year. We are grateful to have a place where people get us and understand. Hopefully soon will be in a better shape emotionally to help and contribute more. Thanks to everyone for having a place we can be accepted and not judged.
 
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I’m very new to Ivory Garden, having joined this community a few days ago. However, I was -and still am- struck by the the welcome, respect, and support that I received and continue to receive here. It upsets me greatly to learn that people join a forum such as this one only to create chaos and havoc. Personally, I’m glad that administrators and moderators are doing such a wonderful job of keeping Ivory Garden safe for all members. I feel secure -as a “newbie”- to risk being myself without fear of ridicule or reprisal. As a person with a severe history of bullying throughout childhood/adolescence, this is very important to me. (And us.) Thank you, Ivory Garden!
 
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This board has been very good for me. My T encouraged me to find Internet support for DID because I had benefitted from a support group for my husband’s medical problem. 
Bingo, I found it on my first try and have been very pleased. Cautious at first, but more and more comfortable. My T is pleased also, believing it will help me. Thanks for making it a safe place where we can come.
 
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Fact~I am so happy that this is the board that we intuitively chose after the DID diagnosis. We have been helped by many awesome members when things have not been going right in life.
Fact~wrote something that shouldn’t have been on the board but we didn’t feel punished when it was removed. A kind message was sent by a mod and we understood why it wasn’t appropriate to be posted.
Fact~I love this forum because we can express the “inners” feelings here without being judged. It is a relief to have chosen this board and I’m really grateful to be a member here. Thank you, Felicity, for a place to go to and for your and everyones hard work to keep it going. It means a lot more than you know.
 
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Fact we are amongst the newest members here
Fact it was not our first site
Fact we are still finding our way around
Fact it does not surprise us there are negative roumers around (where there is success…)
Fact the acknowledgement of these roumers is positive (not hidden or covered up)
Fact the owner, admin and mods are willing to be ‘human’
Fact the site couldn’t be as it is without the hard workers behind the scenes
Fact we have read lots of fan mail here, but some very positive experiences as well
Fact or fiction? The people in the Garden make the place what it is, not the owner, admin or mods

 

For more information and/or question, contact me.

Patricia Goodwin, President

Ivory Garden

felicity4us2@gmail.com